Losing a loved one is one of the most difficult events you can experience. Understanding grief and learning how to cope can help you heal and move forward with your life as you honor the person you miss.
A. Grief is what you feel when you lose someone or something dear to you. How long you grieve depends on the closeness of the relationship. Whether the death was sudden or expected, the nature of the bond also affects how long you grieve.
When you grieve, you often have intense and enduring feelings of disbelief, shock, despair, sadness, and guilt that can be hard to deal with. Even so, these feelings are a normal part of the healing process. Experiencing them will allow you to move on with your life.
A. Support from others is one of the most important parts in healing. That support can come from:
Grief counselors and social workers
Grief support groups
Other family members
Your faith community
A. It’s important to take care of yourself. You should try to do the following:
Eat a healthy diet.
Get enough sleep.
Maintain your normal routine.
Resist the urge to numb the pain with alcohol or drugs. This can delay healing and lead to further problems.
Some people also find creating a meaningful memorial in the person’s honor to be helpful. For example, fund a scholarship program or give a gift to a charity or aid fund in the person’s name.
Finally, be patient with yourself. There's no universal timetable for grief.
A. Mourning is the public side of grief and varies from culture to culture. Regardless of the ritual, mourning provides an accepted way to recognize the death of a loved one. It also helps you say goodbye in a public ceremony that honors the person. It gives family members ongoing support and sympathy.
A. While grief is similar to depression, clinical depression is a psychological disorder. Grief is a normal response to loss. But grief can lead to depression.
Contact your healthcare provider right away if you have any of the following:
Your symptoms last for more than 1 year after a major event.
You resort to drugs or alcohol.
Call 911 if you have thoughts of suicide.